WHY I DONT SOLVE THE PROBLEM

The other day a man in the gym I train at began to tell me of his problems. Good thing is we were at a gym where I could stretch, breathe and concentrate on exercising. As he focused and talked about his problemsI concentrated - without talking - on getting strongerand more flexible. I did not stretch to solve a problem or to get rid of anything. I stretched because it helps me improve upon and work toward a specific goal.After nearly 10 minutes of yapping about hisproblems, the man paused for a moment to ask, "Well, what do you think?""This stretch is getting a lot easier," I said. "I like how you can choose a target, workon it a little each day and see progress."The man didn't know what to say. He stoppedtalking - and as far as I'm concerned, that's a good thing.

Later in the day I saw him again and heapologized for breaking Furey's "NoWhining" Rule. Now, perhaps the above may seem 'insensitive.'Yet, I believe it is almost always the best medicine for people who talk about theirproblems. If you can get people to stop tellingtheir "song and dance" - not just to you, but to everyone else, too - they'd be a lot furtherdown the road of success. When you speak of your problems you activateyour Automatic Failure Mechanism. Sure, youmay find people who offer you solutions to yourproblems - but you'll probably reject the adviceeven if it's good because you'd rather tell yourstory.A different approach is to give up problem solvingaltogether and focus on being creatively alive.

You begin creating what you want in life, for noother reason than you "want to." You don't doanything because you've hit a pain thresholdthat is somehow forcing you to move; not becauseyou have something to fix.In the midst of painful problems, you can still engageyour Automatic Success Mechanism. You do thisby focusing on previous successes you've had.You do this by coming to understand that youattract more good to yourself by focusing ON the good you've already got. Not by scratching andclawing and nit-picking problems. You attract more good by understanding how life works. What you focus on expands. Positiveor negative. Focus on problems - the Universehands you more. Focus on creative ideas (notsolutions) and the Universe sends people, information, events and circumstancesyour way to help you "make it happen."Not long ago I told a couple who is focusedon eliminating their "debt problem" that their objective is off. Once they have eliminated theirdebt - what do they have? Nothing but eliminated debt.

A big fat zero. But what if, while in the midst of debt the couplecame up with creative ideas that made them wealthy.Ahhh - mucho differente - don't you think?My wife and I eliminated our debt years agowith a combination of strategies - foremost ofwhich was putting aside something for ourselvesand "focusing" on the nest egg instead of the debt. In the midst of major debt - we began creatinga wealth account. To feed the wealth account wecontinually added 10% of everything coming ourway, regardless of bills. On top of this we came up with creative ideas designed to "bring home the bacon."It didn't take long before our 10% became 20 and 30%. It didn't take long before our wealthaccount contained MORE than the idea or seedof wealth. So think - not of solving problems - not of findingsolutions. Think of creating your dream life. As the Chinese people say, "Fei chang bu yiyang."Very, very different. Best,Matt Furey http://www.psycho-cybernetics.com/